How to defeat your doubts and conquer your dreams
We've all been there. One day we get this big dream or goal in our minds and life seems like an endless blue sky of opportunity. But a few months, weeks, or even days into your dream, doubts haunt you. Setbacks rise like giant walls in front of you. Fear of failure looms as a roaring ocean threatening to drown you.
In this moment you wonder, "Why should I even try?"
Feeling overwhelmed and discouraged is normal! Life's biggest accomplishments require the greatest effort. If it were easy everybody would be doing it! But the outcome will be worth every tear shed and every sweat-stained towel thrown in the laundry.
Here are some great ways to change your mindset from overwhelmed to empowered:
1. Reevaluate your WHY.
This is the most crucial part to staying on track during the hard times. Why are you going after this goal? Is it to lose weight and have a healthier, more energetic lifestyle? Is it to bring in a better income so you can buy your own home? Do you want to live debt free? Do you want to be your own boss?
Make sure your WHY is rock solid. Because only the strongest WHY's can withstand the waters of doubt.
2. Visualize you future.
Have a clear picture of what your completed goal looks like. Create a vision board with pictures of your dream home or a picture of someone who has accomplished what you're hoping to achieve. Keep your dream alive in your mind by envisioning what your life could be if you stick to your goals.
3. Plan out your dreams.
Dreams only come true if you work to turn them into reality. Create a solid plan for how you will reach your goal. Give yourself a timeline to complete certain tasks. There's nothing like a deadline to keep you focused!
4. Complete small consistent actions.
So you've made a plan to reach your goal. Awesome! Now, time to set the plan into action. But be careful not to get over-eager. Remember, small rivers cut through mountains--not because they're mightier than the mountain, but because they flow steady and consistent every day.
Do small consistent actions each day instead of saving large amounts for the last minute. Establishing habit and routine will do wonders for your stress level.
5. Reward yourself.
Even the smallest achievements toward your goal deserves attention. Rewarding efforts and good behavior makes us want to do it again and again. Your reward doesn't have to be extravagant. Take a relaxing bubble bath or order a Starbucks coffee one morning instead of brewing your usual Folgers.
6. Don't compare yourself to others.
Comparison kills contentment. I came across this statement the other day and it resonated deeply with me. While visualizing a better life is important, we have to be careful not to fall into the comparison game. No road to success is the same. What works for one person might not work for you.
Role models are awesome. Often times, they are the greatest source of motivation and encouragement. But how easy it can be to wish for their life instead of yours and to lose sight of what is good in your own life right now.
Embrace your reality as a vital stepping stone to reach your dream. Accept the road in front of you, because this is the road you've chosen! Don't get sidetracked by other's successes or endeavors. If everyone took the same road, imagine the traffic jam!
7. Look at how far you've come!
What did your life look like a month ago? A year ago? Five years ago? Think of all the lessons learned, friendships made, and accomplishments achieved. You did all those things and you can do them again! Just believe in yourself and use past successes as positive affirmations to give you the boost to push through.
Success takes hard work. There's no way around it. But as daunting as the commitment and work may be, the struggle makes the end product ten times more satisfying.