6 Ways to become a Dependable Person
Do you want to be the person others can rely on in any situation? Do you want to be the rock standing strong when winds of adversity tear through? I know I do. But how do you become that person? What makes you the dependable one?
Here are six ways to be dependable.
1. Show up early
Time is the world's equalizer. It is one aspect of life that is the same for everyone. We each get the same amount of time in a day. No one person gets any more or any less. It's how we spend our time that sets us apart. Since we all are allotted the same hours in a day, don't waste other people's precious time by showing up late.
Making a habit of being late will only frustrate your peers. Whether it's in a relationship or in a working environment, showing up on time shows you care. Showing up early proves to the other person that you've made them a priority. And when you make someone feel like they're a priority, they'll be more prone to look to you for help and advice.
2. Stick to your commitments
Your friend is throwing a big end-of-summer barbecue next month and asks you to help with the food prep. In the moment, you're excited about the party and agree to help right away. But as the event draws closer, you've lost your enthusiasm to help out. You'd much rather just come to the barbecue to party with your friends and have a carefree afternoon. Your friend would understand, right? You could make some excuse about time, or something came up so you can't help prepare....
NO! Stick to your commitments! Part of being dependable and reliable is keeping your word no matter what. The feeling of not wanting to help is just a feeling. It's no excuse to back out of a commitment.
Now, there is such a thing as taking on too much. This brings us up to number three.
3. Learn to say no, when necessary
Wait a minute. What? How does saying no make you a reliable person?
We as human beings can only handle so much. Saying yes to everything in order to please everyone will only wear you down and spread your focus too thin. Think about it--if you're juggling ten different agendas, how will you have the energy to give 110% to each one? You'll be too busy thinking about the next commitment you've made in the middle of trying to complete the first one. It's not fair to you, and it's not fair to others. Part of showing up, is being completely and totally present at all times. If you don't think you can commit to showing up, graciously decline when asked.
Saying no every once in a while won't come across as unreliable. Saying yes every time only to fall short will.
4. Go the extra mile
No matter what assignment you've been given at work, do it to the best of your ability. "Good enough" should not be in your vocabulary. Good enough means there is still room for improvement. Anyone can (and usually does) a good enough job. Make it your mindset to do the best job you can possibly do.
In relationships, don't settle for mediocre. Reach for deeper relationships with the people in your life who matter to you. Prove to them that they aren't just good enough for you. Show them how essential they are to you. Take initiative to invite them out for a coffee or a walk. Bring them a little gift as a pick-me-up if you know they have had a rough week. Go the extra mile to make the important people in your life feel special. They'll see you as someone to lean on in return.
5. Be positive and affirming
Complainers are everywhere. They're in our workplaces, our churches, our friendship circles, even in our families. Take a good look at yourself and ask the question, "Am I the complainer?" If so, make the resolution to change. Complainers aren't the first people we go to when we need something done. If you ask a complainer to handle a job, you'll get a bunch of moaning and groaning in return. If you go to a complainer with a personal problem, you can bet they'll come up with some situation in their lives that's worse than what you are going through.
Is a complainer someone you would go to first? Absolutely not.
So be the person who adds positivity to this world. Be the one who builds others up instead of tearing them down with negative comments and emotions. Be the one who helps a friend to stand in the midst of a trial instead of sitting on the bench next to them and wallowing in self pity.
6. Keep yourself accountable
Being reliable requires you to hold yourself to a higher standard. Only you can make the changes to become dependable.
If you say yes to too many things, start carrying a planner around with you so you can look at your schedule and see if you truly have time for another commitment or not. If you find yourself complaining all the time, work to develop an attitude of gratitude. Carry a notebook with you and find ten things throughout your day that you can be thankful for and write them down. If you tend to be late, set alarms to keep you on track and on time.
In order to be the one people can rely on, you must first be able to rely on yourself. So keep yourself accountable and pay attention to the areas in your life that are good enough, because those areas still have room for improvement.
So there you have my six tips for becoming a more dependable person. I'd love to hear your thoughts about dependability and what you do to be the one others can turn to. Drop a comment below and share this post with someone else who wants to improve themselves!
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